Adobe settings vs printer settings

Hello all,
First post here with a question.

I just got photoshop cs2 as a gift about a month ago and have been using it with my digital camera to save photos and maybe just some auto type enhancements, nothing special.

Well last night i recieved a prom pic from my daughter and i was going to print it and frame it, but 2 things happend.

The first one was that when i tried to print it it said it was tooooooo big 40inx60in so i resized it to 8.5x11 and it got very blurry, after about an hour i figured out how to get it sharp again (by accident) and forgot how i did it DOH!!! It was some kind of compairson with 4 of the same photo and resizeing the file from 9.5M to about 400kb and actualy adding some blur.
The next problem is when i printed it, it was so washed out it looked like an old 70's poloroid but on screen it looks great. Now I've read the color settings section but i think i might have set some settings wrong [U]and i don't think i fully understand what i'm reading :confused: . I know there are settings to either let photoshop take care of the printing or let the printer.Personaly i think i would like to let photoshop do it that way any email's or photo's i shoot will have a common baseline. The printer i'm using is an hp psc 2410 and the camera is a minolta dimage7i, is this a good camera / printer. I'm in adobe rgb(1998) mode and i think i saw somwhere in the printer software to choose between adobe rgb or the hp printer.Do these have to match.

Put simply how can i print it the way i see it on screen

I know ....long winded but i try to give all the info i can

software: adobe photoshop cs2
Card: nvidia geforce ti 4600
crt: compaq mv 940 17in regular screen 1024x768
Printer HP psc 2410
Camera: Minolta Dimage 7i

Thanks,
Ghost

Thanks for all the help

*sniff* i smell sarcasm :P

Anyways im not sure about settings PS CS2, but if u gonna use the RGB color setting i suggest u use the Monitor RGB setting.

And about the rezizing u can just go File > Print with Preview
Then under "Scaled Print Size" u check the "Scale to Fit Media"