my crap situation ...

well, let's see. as of now, i can honestly say that i'm pretty pissed off, confused, sad, and in question of where the hell my life is going. all i can say is ... i hope this sh*t gets better.

here's the story. it's pretty long. this is also the main reason none of you all have seen me around lately. so, don't think i just up and left you guys ... i didn't, i miss you guys.

me and my girl were living with our parents before we moved out (duh). since she's pregnant we both decided it might be a good idea to get roomates so we wouldn't have to spend that much money on bill and we'd be able to save up and put money in the bank for when we decided to move into our own place.

when we moved in, i brought with me a couch, an entertainment center, two stereos, a tv, a coffee table, and my computer. all of these items went into the living room. generous? yeah. but that wasn't the only reason. there wouldn't of been room and me and my girls room for all that stuff. in our room, we had a dresser, a bed, and a few other things.

what things of theirs did they put in the living room? a weight set. but that didn't bother me at all. they really didn't have any furniture anyway (besides bedroom type stuff). 90% of everything they owned was in their room, which didn't bother me at all.

the first two or three weeks of living there were great. me and champ both worked at goodyear and made plenty of money to support the household. but then, him and his girl got into an argument, he ran off for the night and came back with a screwed up knee. thus putting him out of work. he wasn't fired, he just didn't work. he kept getting doctors excuses and crap.

so, then, i was the only one paying for food, gas, and all of the above (good thing household bills dont come everyday). so for about two weeks, i was the only one working and buying food. tashika (roomates girlfriend) would but food with food stamps ... she payed for food out of her pocket maybe once. but that was cool. at least there was food.

she always said that we would all go half and half on the bills. but ... she refused to go half on the gas for the car (which we only had one ... mine) and she wouldn't go half on the insurance for the car either, which was okay ... it was my car afterall.

while both of them were out of work, they'd ask me for money here and there and i'd give it to them, knowing they'd pay it back. this left me with hardly any money to give to my own girl. after about a week and a half of this, and bill time came around, i ended up having to pawn my tv, and one of my stereos. tashika and champ pawned some jewlrey (rachel even gave them one of her rings to pawn) and their microwave. that sucked.

then, tashika found a job. funny how it took her two and a half weeks to realize that her man wasn't about to work. even though she found a job, i still ended up loaning her money and after that, rachel (my girl) got pissed and moved back in with her grandma (there were a few other reasons she moved out ... i'll explain later).

after she moved out ... it really went to hell. but, before i go on, i'll tell you about a few things that helped piss me off.

i work 12 hour shifts that rotate between days and nights. a few nights that i worked, i came home in the morning and went to sleep, only to be woke a few hours later by tashika and champ listening to their music FULL BLAST in their room. rude? hell yeah.

we only had an air conditioner in the living room, and being that it's summer time and we live in oklahoma, it gets pretty hot. one night, my girl (who's pregnant) went to sleep in the living room because the heat in our room was making her throw up. in the morning, tashika got up and started throwing an attitude around b*tching about how she doesn't want to wake up to a naked person in the living room. funny, because rachel was fully clothed.

since i've been living there, i've had to ask my parents for over $200 dollars just so everyone in the house could eat and so i could put gas in the car and for a few bills. i hated that and i should have never had to ask for ANY money at all. that's pretty sad.

tashika says we're supposed to go half and half on everything, but one day, when she went and got four 12 packs of soda, she put two of them in her room just so she could drink on them. haha, and she says that she's not selfish.

everyone in the house but rachel drinks, and i would but a lot of beer. every payday, i'd but three 30 packs and a few bottles of gin for everyone to drink on. tashika and champ would rarely buy beer, and when they did, they'd buy like a 40 and try and split it between three people. haha. right, that really works.

one night (after rachel had moved out) me and champ left for a few hours to find some ... um ... "stuff." when we came back, they house was completely filled with smoke ... i mean a thick as* cloud that you couldn't even see through. come to find out, tashikas drunk as* decided to cook some chicken and fall asleep. funny thing is, she woke up when the house was starting to fill up with smoke ... all she did was go outside for some air, then walk back into the house and go to sleep again ... this is what she told us the next day. the house still smells like crap. luckily nothing cought on fire.

ok, so anyway, back to the story. every morning i would wake up at 6:00. then wait for tashika to wake up so we could go to work or so i could drop her off at work when i was off (i don't know why i had to do her mans job and take her to work when i was off ... wait, yeah i do ... i forgot they think that if i'm driving, they don't have to put any gas in the car). anyway, one morning, i was taking her to work and i asked her if she could put her tv in the living room so everyone could watch tv. i mean, it would only be fair since i had almost everything i owned in that living room and the tv that was in there (mine) i had to pawn. she said no and she didn't see why she had to put her tv in the living room. she said a few things about me and rachel being selfish but i was too pissed off to listen to what she had to say after that.

after that morning, i decided i was going to stop helping them so much. for christs sake, i'm about to have a kid and i can't be doing that. i moved in to save money, not spend it all on them. funny how they don't realize that.

about 4 days ago, i woke up early, around 8:00. tashika was up too and told me we needed to talk about a few things. now listen to this. this is funny. she was mad because she said me and my girl were selfish the whole time we were living their. she complained that we didn't spend as much money on food as she did ... riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. that's bull. i payed for food out of my pocket. she got food with food stamps ... which is FREE money. THEN she said we were selfish because i asked her to put her tv in the living room. yeah, i'm real selfish for asking that ... especially since almost everything i owned was in that livingroom for EVERYONE to use and enjoy. everytime i would try and talk, she'd cut me off and continue on about the same things, not letting me say a WORD. yeah, some talk.

the next day, while she was at work, me and champ talked. it seems like guys can actually talk about things and hear each other out better than females. its funny how he agrees with me on almost everything i explained to him. and its even funnier how he's thinking about breaking up with her because of how she is. all i can say is ... i don't blame him. that would probably be the smartest thing for him to do. what kind of girl uses her mans money up and leaves him unable to pay off a speeding ticket (this was a while ago). she told him she'd pay for it since she took the money from him, but she still hasn't and now in a week, he'll be spending a month in jail because of her.

well, i decided that by next week (when rent and the electric bill is due) i'll be moving out ... and i'm not paying a DIME on either bills. and as for rides so she can get to work ... she can either call a cab, walk, or call someone else. and food? riiiiight. i'm not buying sh*t. oh, and if she needs money, she can go rob a store for all i care, but it's NOT coming out of MY pocket. it'll be funny when i move out and all they have in that house is a bed, a tv, a dresser, a weight set, and a stereo.

i've already found someone i can stay with for a little while so i can save up some money so me and rachel can get our own place WITHOUT any roomates. i have priorities, and they don't include supporting them more than my own girl. i already got my stereo out the pawn shop so that's settled. and as for the tv i still have in the pawn shop, i could care less about it ... i planned on selling it and getting a new one anyway.

well, that's my story. life's great, aint it?

wow, that took a while to read.

Well, that b*tch sounds like a b*tch. So forget about her.
I think you're making the right decision in moving away with rachel. I'm sure you'll be doing decent after things settle a bit.

When's the baby due? It seems she's been pregnant for years now. :D

Good luck though, I can't see why things wouldn't turn out alright for you in a while.

thanks man. rachel is about 4-5 months pregnant. we're going to the doctor on the 31st to see if its a boy or girl and when the baby is due. hehe, if it seems long for you, imagine how i feel.

What city you live in? I used to live in Tulsa myself...Washington>Oklahoma is all I can say.

I live in Lawton, alpha. It's getting bigger ... all they build is banks here ... bank after bank after bank. Boring, lol.

.02 gets medal for longest post ever.

i hate it when people are almost unbearable, but you try to live with them. then they come out and tell you that you're selfish or annoying or have no respect, which is exactly what you've been pissed off about (to yourself) for so long. the only thing I can say is maybe you can try to be half-civil when leaving, because what goes around comes around. even though you're completely pissed off now, its not really humanly decent to leave her completely flat on her face.

besides, she has a weight set so leave her too long and she'll come back to kick your ass :D

tom

. some people just cant see beyond their own personal gain .
. what a total skeez .

. it's great that youve decided to move out! good luck! .

. will you have any trouble breaking the lease or anything? .

. make sure they dont try to **** with your stuff before you leave .

. bewm .

My names not on the lease, thank god.

Well, that just sucks, don' it. I think your doin the right thing here, tho. Perhaps already should have done it some time ago. You seem a patient man, 02. Was this friends of your's, I got a feeling he was atleast ? Awful woman that tashika.

And your right 'bout guys and talking. Hehe, when we get around to it, we can talk about things... And we don't put so much into every statement that is made, we hear what the other person is saying and that's it, eh ? I think he's doin right by breakin up with that biatch and you by movin out...

Rach did just move to get away from those plp ? You're still together, right ? You'll get a nice christmas gift this year, you are !

Hope it turns out to the best for ye all.

Yeah, me and rachel are still together. She moved out to get away from tashika.