Is Marriage All That Bad?

I've heard countless times on here, the married men saying that the sex stops or slows down, the wife gets in the way, etc.

I have a significant other, we have been serious for over a year or two now, and within two years or so i may pop the question depending on how things go...

WHAT'S SO BAD ABOUT MARRIAGE?

Nos.

What's so bad?

Tell me, 3 years is different then 30 years, right? Could you be with the same person for so long, whatever happen? Just look at most people.

If you think you are different then them, well it's your call. ;)

So marriage doesn't really fo anything, it's just the fact that you've been with them for so long?

Makes sense.

Nos.

I'm just telling you what I see all around me.

The question should be, why would you get married? What does it really give you more? If you're telling me you do it for your religion, well I can't say much, cause I know it's too deep inside your head to argue about it. But let's face it, marriages don't mean the same as they used to, hence all the divorces.

What I think is if you really like the person you're with, then show her how much she counts for you without requiring methods like weddings where half the persons that are there don't care one bit about it. Show her how much she's important for you... every ****in day you live with her, not with something that happen once in a life and that doesn't mean anything. SHOW her your love, may it be for the rest of your life and at the end, you'll have only more money to spend on the "honey moon"

sorry if I sounded harsh, only my opinion and sorry about my bad english :/

Your english is great, and i wasn't offended.

Marriage is something she is definately set on, and i would prefer marriage as well. Maybe there is just something about a wedding, though, that makes the couple think "ok, now we're married, now we can just relax", and they just stop trying as hard? I dunno..

Nos.

Show her how much she's important for you... every ****in day you live with her

If you do that after you're married, you will have a good marriage. If you suddenly stop doing that as soon as you get married, you won't have so great of a marriage. Marriage doesn't magically ruin your life, no. You still have to work at it and everything, which a lot of people stop doing. Including me, to be honest. But yeah, you definitely get more comfortable, forget to do special things together, etc. Then it's more like you have some annoying roommate that tells you what to do instead of a wife. But it can be avoided if you really work at it. Just be sure you're ready and willing to work on it every day for the rest of your life. It's tiring... and I've only been married for 2 and a half years. I'm going to go take a nap... after I wash the dishes and fold the laundry. ;)

Then it's more like you have some annoying roommate that tells you what to do instead of a wife

Lol -- that is pretty true. Those are the low points though.

Deker is a wise one. I have been with my wife for 7 years (Married less than 2). It's completely different after 7 years than it is after 2, trust me on that.

It's not that it's all bad. The sex does decrease, the bitching does increase, but it's simply because you are together all the time now, and more comfortable with each other.

forget to do special things together

That, I think, is the key. Women always love for you to go out of your way to do something special for them, and heck, it's easy to remember to do those things when you are trying to get some. But later on in the relationship, it's not that you don't want to do those things anymore, you just don't think about it anymore. If you could do those "special things" every day, you'd have a much more active sex life as a married couple.